Today I am happy to share with you a post written by my Twitter friend and fellow blogger Megan. Megan has a wonderful mental health blog that everyone should go and check out! Find her blog HERE.
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How to Love Yourself
When it comes to how to love yourself, we’ve all heard it before:
“First love yourself, others will come next.” – unknown
The truth is that we always flip this quote around. We always love others first before ourselves.
February is a month dedicated to love. We think about our special someone. We buy gifts like chocolate or stuffed animals to show that we love this special someone. We might take them out for a fancy dinner and buy them flowers. This February, why can’t that special someone be yourself?
Today I’d like to dedicate this post to you. You are special and important. It’s time to take charge of your life and learn how to love yourself. It won’t happen overnight; in fact, it can take time. I promise you though that it does happen.
10 Ways to Love Yourself:
- Forgive Yourself
It’s time to let go of everything that is holding you back. From personal experience, I know that this is not an easy one. You need to accept that these things have happened though. It’s the only way to truly become the independent and beautiful person that you are. Instead, look at your past as a series of events that have made you who you are today.
- Make a Vision Board
Now that you’ve let go of the past, it’s time to visualize the future:
- First, buy yourself a bristol board in any color you want.
- Next, it’s time to dig out those old magazines. Alternatively, you could go on Pinterest or find old photographs. Pick pictures that inspire you or motivate you. Also, pick the pictures that represent the goals you want to work towards.
- Gather all your pictures and create a collage on your bristol board.
- When you finish, put your bristol board up on a wall where you will see it regularly.
Look at your vision board daily. It will keep you motivated, and it will remind you why you are choosing yourself.
- Start a Bullet Journal
I highly suggest creating a bullet journal as well as a vision board. If the vision board really doesn’t work for you though, then definitely start a bullet journal. There are SO many journals out there to choose from now, like this one from Amazon. Use your journal any way you choose. Maybe you want to record your goals from your vision board. You could use it to organize your life. You could even write your thoughts and feelings daily. Whatever suits you. If you need some help, head over to Pinterest and search “bullet journals.” You will get TONS of ideas.
- Accept Compliments
So, you’re out and about with some friends. Suddenly someone walks up to you and tells you that they love your outfit. You kind of smile and shake it off saying, “no no, it’s nothing, just something that I put together.” The person insists that you look very nice today. You feel anxious and don’t know what to say.
Okay maybe that scenario is a little out there, but we’ve all received a compliment and weren’t sure what to say in response. The response is simple. Say “thank you.” Accept that compliment and let it make you feel good. That person went out of their way to say something nice about you. You earned it so own it!
- Talk Nice to Yourself
This scenario may be more familiar than the last one. Ever try on a shirt from your closet then look in the mirror and think, “I look so ugly.” I’m guilty.
It’s hard to do, but you really need to stop doing that. How can you love yourself, if all you do is insult yourself? Instead change that statement from “I look so ugly” to “I don’t think this shirt suits me anymore, I’ll try something else.” Enlist the help of close friends and family. Whenever you say something negative about yourself, your friends or family members can chime in and remind you. Ultimately though, it’s a personal decision to be nice to yourself.
- Ditch the Negative Crowd
Surround yourself with positive people. Remove the negative ones from your life. As difficult as it may be to do, it is the right thing to do for yourself. You’re more likely to project a positive outlook when surrounded by a positive crowd. You’re also more likely to feel better about yourself. So, do yourself a favor and ditch the negative. Your future self will thank you!
- Forget About What Others Think
I’ve said it once and I’ll say it again… “it is what it is.” You cannot control what other people think just like they cannot control your thoughts. The answer? Stop worrying about what others are thinking. Just live for you! You will not believe the amount of stress that you lose when you do that.
The fact of the matter is – you can’t please everyone. We’ve all tried to do it and it usually fails miserably. Save yourself the stress and the energy. Live for you and don’t worry about anyone else!
- Say No
It’s so easy to take on more and more projects. We often forget how stressful it can be, until it’s too late. So, for once, say no. Yes, the first few times you may feel guilty. Don’t feel guilty though. You’ve earned a break and you should take one! Refer to #7 when you feel guilty. You’re doing this for yourself. Say no.
- Take Care of Yourself
This one is an important one! If you want to love yourself then you need to take care of yourself. That means taking that walk instead of watching Netflix all night or eating that fruit instead of the chocolate bar (despite how good the chocolate bar looks!).
You need to be healthy.
Being healthy means eating a well-balanced diet of fresh fruits and vegetables, whole grains and lean meats. It also means a minimum of 30 minutes of exercise per day. Finally, you also need to do something for yourself that you love. Maybe it’s a hobby that has long been forgotten or maybe it’s that course that you’ve always wanted to take. For me, it was learning how to curl and starting a blog.
The point here is, take care of yourself. You are important and you deserve to be taken care of too.
- Reward Yourself
Last, but certainly not least, reward yourself! You had a hard week at work, but you made it through? Then reward yourself with that pizza dinner that you’ve been craving. Succeed in completing that essay that was due? Treat yourself to a movie with friends.
Reward yourself for the successes in your life. They may seem too small to others, but remember, we don’t care what they think anymore. This is about rewarding yourself for all of the hard work that you do!
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My name is Megan and I am the sole owner and writer of Not Scared (A blog dedicated to mental health promotion and finding solutions to common mental health issues).
I am passionate about mental health. I have been suffering from bipolar disorder type II since my early teen years. I have faced everything from lows to highs. I have faced stigma in the workplace and in the general public. I went through a 10-year journey to be properly diagnosed. It was a lot of self-advocating to finally get the help that I needed, but I was successful. I continue the fight to be mentally well daily.
Aside from this, I am 29 years old and from Ontario, Canada. I am an avid craft-er and DIY-er. I live in an apartment that I share with my two cats, Oliver (the orange cat) and Abigail (the grey cat).